Perth-based Counsellor and Coach, Debbie Paull, shares her Constellation Experience
In this post, I want to share a deeply personal journey—my first experience with Family Constellation therapy. Just a few months ago, I hadn’t even heard of it. But sometimes, life offers us the right things at the right time. I was invited to attend a one-day Family Constellation workshop by my sound therapist, Eka, from Chariea Aviya Wellness. With no expectations and an open heart, I said yes. What unfolded that day has left a lasting impression on my understanding of healing, self-worth, and ancestral connection.
Walking into the Unknown
The workshop had three clients, including me, and seven representatives. Before the day, I filled out a form about my parents and grandparents and had a conversation with Eka to explore some of my family history. Family Constellation is based on the understanding that unresolved issues, such as miscarriages, early deaths, adoption, absent parents, or migration, can leave energetic imprints on the family system. These imprints can silently echo through generations, affecting our emotional and psychological lives without us even realising it.
Discovering the Roots of My Pain
My intention going into the constellation was to explore an ongoing struggle with self-worth. As the process began, I chose three people from the group to represent parts of my family system and myself. It was like watching a movie of my life unfold in front of me—only this time, with new eyes. During our preparatory discussion, Eka asked me to look deeper into the roots of my grandfather’s addiction and trauma. Through some distant cousins, I learned something I’d never known: my great-grandfather had been adopted—a fact only discovered a few years ago. This revelation was surprising, confusing, and oddly validating.
When It All Starts to Make Sense
As the constellation played out, Eka gently and expertly introduced representations of my great-grandfather, his adoptive parents, and even his birth parents into the field. That’s when things began to click. The confusion, the deep feelings of loss, loneliness, and low self-worth I’ve carried—they started to make sense. By acknowledging the hidden stories of my ancestors and making space for love and peace to enter, I was able to release what I had unconsciously carried for generations. It was an incredibly emotional release, one that brought with it a new sense of belonging within myself and my lineage.
Integration and Reflection
It took a few days after the workshop for everything to settle in fully. I found myself shifting from old, familiar patterns of thinking into a more natural, grounded version of myself. As someone trained in counselling, hypnotherapy, regression, and other healing modalities, I was truly struck by the immediacy and depth of transformation that Family Constellation offered. It’s unlike anything I’ve experienced—fast, powerful, and profoundly moving. If you’re feeling stuck or weighed down by emotions you can’t quite explain, this work may be for you. It requires courage and openness, but if you’re ready to go deep, Family Constellation can unlock healing not just for you, but for generations before and after you.
Bringing peace and love to your heart and soul
Debbie Paull is a qualified Counsellor based in Perth, Western Australia. She specialises in working with women who are ready to create real and lasting change. With a Diploma in Counselling and a deep passion for women’s wellbeing, Debbie now focuses on Counselling, Women’s wellness Coaching, Spinal Flow, Hypnotherapy, and Past Life Regression. Alongside her formal training, she brings a rich tapestry of holistic modalities and life experience to guide and support women in creating the happiness and fulfilment they are searching for. Her approach is grounded, compassionate, and tailored to each unique journey. These approaches support women in working through anxiety, emotional blocks, low self-worth, procrastination, anger, weight issues, and more.
Connect with Debbie Paull at Conscious Living Directory https://www.consciouslivingdirectory.com.au/australia/debbie-paull/western-australia
