Who Are You When You Stop Trying to Be What Everyone Else Needs? Have you ever wondered how much of the person you are today was shaped by the roles you took on as a child?
In this conversation, Amrit Sandhu is joined by Dr Nicole LePera, known as The Holistic Psychologist, to explore a question many of us might never have stopped to consider: How much of the person we are today was shaped by the roles we took on as a child?
Together they explore how our childhood experiences shape how we see ourselves, relate to others, and understand our own worth. Nicole shares her personal journey, including how she realised outward success doesn’t always bring fulfilment or inner connection. Perhaps you were the responsible one, the mature one, the peacemaker or the one who learned to manage everything on your own. These roles may have helped you feel safe or loved growing up, but what happens when those same patterns follow you into adult life?
Nicole talks about nine parenting archetypes and the behaviours we can carry into adulthood without even realising it. From people-pleasing and perfectionism to finding it difficult to trust others, ask for help or simply rest without feeling guilty, these patterns can have a much greater influence on our lives than we might think.
The conversation also explores what it means to reparent ourselves and begin doing things differently. It’s about recognising the habits that once helped us cope, understanding where they came from and permitting ourselves to choose another way. Learning to trust ourselves, express what we need and allow others to support us can open the door to a very different relationship with ourselves and those around us.
Perhaps it begins with a simple question: Who are you when you stop trying to be everything everyone else needs you to be?
