Have you ever caught yourself saying “I am Fine” when you’re anything but ? or putting someone else’s needs before your own, again and again! even though you promised yourself this time would be different?
If this feels familiar, you are not alone.So many of us have learned to silence our inner voice, the one that whispers when something doesn’t feel right, when we need to rest, or when we deserve more.
WHY WE STOP LISTENING TO OURSELVESÂ
From a young age, many of us are taught that being “good ” means being accommodating. We learn to keep the peace, to be helpful, to give without asking for much in return. Over time, this conditioning can create an inner conflict. We are praised for being kind and selfless, but quietly punished or judged when we put ourselves first.
As a result, we start tuning out the messages our body, heart, and intuition send us. We push through until we can’t anymore.I for one know these feelings from my younger years.
LISTENING INWARD
Listening to yourself is an act of courage.It means slowing down long enough to ask yourself
What do I really need right now?
What am I afraid will happen if I put myself first ?
Whose voice am I hearing -Mine or someone else’s?
Often,the first step is simply awareness. Start noticing when you feel resentful, drained, or unseen-these emotions are signs you have abandoned your own needs.
WHY WE DONT PUT OURSELVES FIRST
We tell ourselves stories like:
“THEY NEED ME MORE”
“ITS SELFISH TO SAY NO”Â
“IF I STOP DOING EVERYTHING, ITS ALL GOING TO FALL APART”
But the truth is,constantly putting others before yourself leads to burnout, disconnection, and even resentment. Putting yourself first doesn’t mean neglecting others – it means showing up from a place of balance and SELF – RESPECT not depletion.
THE TURNING POINT
Learning to listen inward takes practice.Its about creating space …a pause between what’s expected of you and what your soul is quietly asking for. When you start listening, clarity follows.You begin to see patterns, boundaries become clearer and your sense of self strengthens.You make choices that feel lighter.You stop saying yes when you mean no.
Slowly you will begin to remember who you really are beneath all the roles, noise ,and expectations.
“Listening to yourself is not selfish -its sacred.”
It’s the foundation of every healthy boundary,every dream pursued, every moment of peace. If this message resonates with you stay close-I am creating a Free 30 minute workshop “COMIMG HOME TO YOU” where we will go deeper into:
Why we struggle to put ourselves first
How to reconnect with your inner voice
Simple practices to bring more calm and clarity back into your life.
If you would like to be first to know when its live, make sure you’re on my email list or follow me on Instagram @debbiejpaull
https://neidrawellnesscenter.com
Bringing love back to your soul
DEB
